5 Tips for Writing Heartfelt Wedding Vows
Putting your own personal touch on your vows is great way to make your wedding more unique. Your wedding day is one of the most important, memorable, and emotional days of your life. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed about putting words together to say on your big day; Luckily, it doesn’t have to be that difficult. First and foremost, let go of any preconceived notions of what you’re supposed to say and go with your heart. It’s amazing how easy writing your vows can be when you just focus on this “tell your darling just how much they mean to you.”
Let the intimidation subside and follow these 5 simple tips for flawless vow writing.
- Write from the heart. Your wedding day represents the epitome of love between you and your future spouse. The two of you are together for a reason. Anything you write should be honest and from your heart, because that is what will really make your words special.
- You don’t have to be Robert Frost or Emily Dickinson. If you’re a poet, great – get all poet-y on your lover. Keep in mind, though, that in the end, words are just words. Your wedding vows do not have to be an amazing classic piece of literature – They should, however, be an honest display of your feelings for the other person. Avoid using long poetical words if all it does is put distance between your words and your feelings.
- It’s okay to brainstorm. Before you write anything, make a list of the things about your spouse that you absolutely love, then make a list of the commitments you want to make. Figure out what parts of those lists you really want to include and keep those. Always keep in mind that your vows are read in front of your families and friends. Try your best not to say anything that you wouldn’t want Grammy Loraine to hear.
- Short and Sweet. It doesn’t take many words or a lot of time to show the love you share. A lot can be said in a really short time, so don’t feel like you have to make the vows any longer than they naturally come out.
- Be Yourself. If you’re funny. Be funny. Are you shy? Be shy. You don’t have to do or say anything you don’t want to. Always remember, this is YOUR wedding and you two can decide what you want to share, say, write, and display – as a couple.
Follow these five tips, and you’ll find that writing your own unique vows doesn’t have to be a daunting task. In fact, it can be a fun one. Tell your darling how much you love them and enjoy the look on their face when you do!